5 steps to built self esteem

It is to no amazements that many unhappy people have low self-esteem and low confidence.

We were all born happy and smiling and sometimes along the years to growing -up  we got affected by our environment close or society , come across unhappy people , or deviated from our own path and ended up lost, stuck in daily rutines and trivial problems.

Low-esteem and bad self-image is the worst enemy to happiness.

You will be pleased to know that IT CAN BE HEALED.

The bad news is it is not going to happen for x or y amount of money and in x months time. This is a journey and with practice and perseverance you get there.

Open your eyes and look around, what is the alternative.

Here are some simple steps that you can start with

1. Every morning ( more effective )make a list of things you are good at. like cooking, listening to other people , dressing, looking after friends/ family , raising a family, dancing, singing, painting... etc
you will find easity 5-6 things you are good at

2. Comparisson is the killer of joy. don't compare your self, your child, your relationships or job opportunities and salaries.
If you cont to compare yu will always feel inferior and lacking

3. Perfections does not exist. 
You should only aim for improvements in specific areas of life.
in all the books , seminars, real life stories they teach you not to persevere perfection. if ou folloe-it you are guaranted miserable, sad life.
I am on the quest for assertiveness. I found my self that sometimes i don't like to answe back as i can't find the correct words to be firm and polite and keep my emotions under control, but i am improving.

5. when making a mistake ADMIT IT. 
Don't make excuseses and don't blame others. Be resposible and admit it  and mean it,  it takes guts to stand up and own a mistake , you can start with small mistakes and then bigger ones.

6. on meeting new people BE YOUR SELF. Please don't translate this that you have the wright to be rude and inconsiderate . Beeing your self is very crucial and if you have not done for a long time it might feel unrealistic. There are tools to help you, keep a diary with 1-2 lines every days how yiu would have liked to be with one encounter a day. Write the best scenario that you wanted to be and how did you behave. make small changes every day

7. Listen the criticism with your mind not emotions. Don't listen to other people emotions either listen to the facts and ask them to stick to the facts.

Keep a journal. For every little thing that you have done that follows the above steps congratulate your self , give a pat in the back. For every scenario that you felt affected your self-esteem write it downn, how would somebody with big self-esteem answer, what would they do?
A famous writer once sad "The Mind can achieve whatever can conceive."
Look for help and get some knowledge, dont be in dark you deserve a great life.

Be confident

Be happy

Love your self and love life.