RULES OF HAPPINESS

Everybody in the world is seeking happiness- but not everybody gets it. That, some people think is elusive and stop looking for it, some people have is all around and don't know how it looks like so are continuing in a futile chase to get somewhere that is never good enough. Happiness comes by controlling your thoughts and changing negative, disempowering habbits with empowering ones.

Happiness comes by making a plan and analysing what happiness is for you and how it will make you feel when you get it. and by making an analyses with a coach or by your self you realise that you can have that state of mind now , at this moment and enjoy the journey ahead.

For some time now I have started doing mindful medication in the morning and after 3 months I can say that i see the benefits. When I was growing up I was eager to get that peace of mind , how do people get it, where do they find it, how much does it cost, how long does it take.

Mindfulness is a great tool.

It is proven scientifically and is used as a prescription for pin relief, mild-mod depression and history of recurrent depression, improve the immune system, improve concentration/ focus. as a result is great when used in schools, companies, relationship. School projects like .b is a one of them and the teacher implementing it has done a TED talk to talk about it and the benefit.
Big companies like apple, IBM, PWC, general motors have mindfulness rooms to help the employees unwind and refocus.
Mindful based cognitive therapy is used in NHS in UK to help patients with pain, depression, low mood, weight loss.

You don't need a room , a mat a space to increase your awareness, you need to be willing to improve you life where you are and to admit that you are responsible for transforming your life.

Easy steps to be mindful

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1. Get out of you head. use your senses. when doing something like taking a shower. Be there. take a shower, feel the worm water in you skin, enjoy the sound of water slashing, feel the warms of the temperature and the humidity of the room.

2. Avoid multitasking whenever you can. I hazes the concentration and affect negatively the productivity by 40% according to research and affect creativity.

3. When awaiting a queue rather than waiting time, engage your awareness. notice you feet on the floor for full ten breaths. Nice the colour, notice the sounds, gaze in the face of your chip or your loved one.

4. Practice being in the moment. answering the phone, somebody is saying something you don't agree, notice your thoughts, your feelings are their dealing ones or do you feel your getting tight, annoyed. Take big breaths and let the negative emotions pass by like little cars in the road, if you base them you get tired. If you get in front of them you get run over, let the pass by and be compassionate to your self.

5. Appreciate things other do for you and say that to them.

6. Have a straight posture.

7. eat slowly

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I won't  tell you any more as it is proven that 7 things is the max we can retain at one time. THAT IS THE REASON WHY PHONES HAVE 7DIGITS.

remember as John Kabat-Zin  say.
As long as you're breathing there is more right with you than is wrong ,no matter what is wrong with you.


Be mindful and be happy.


Bruna

more resources.
http://www.bemindfulonline.com
app- brain waves
https://www.bangor.ac.uk
http://www.oxfordmindfulness.org
Book Mindfulness- Jon Kabat Zin and M. William
Book " Mindfulness for Dummies"- Shamash Alidina

Self Talk. Path to success and freedom.

For me words are a form of action, capable of influencing change- Ingrid Bengis

We have voices in our heads which talk to us on an almost constant basis. Our voices give us messages continually, and what they say to us affect us- Juliene Berk

First say to your self what you would be; and than do what you have to do - Epictetus

If you hear a voice whithin you saying " you are not a panter " by all means paint and that voice will be silenced- Vincent Van Gogh

I talk to my self because I like dealing with a better class of people- Savielly Tartakower

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These a few quotes about Self talk.
What is Self-Talk. The inner conversation in our head and the load conversation about our self on discussion with our people. These are as important as each-other maybe the inner talk to our self more important. We can get our self to do whatever we want to do and this is a tool to have on your journey to achieve that goal.

I come across this concept from several books and it is used widely by people on the path to a good life. There are always extremes of what you say and do.
What I am focusing on is you talking what you want to and than take action towards ts achievements, but what is important?


1. Because thoughts change beliefs, beliefs change actions and actions bring results.

I would like to help and influence and help as many people as I can but if i don't spend more time writing , reserching and bringing facts and supporting and than marketed well is not going to happen.

So it is imperative to know that this the send step of achievement, the first one finding what you want to do and why?????

2. As a speaker said once , I think was Dr S. Covey that the self talk might be the only intelligent conversation you will have that day.

3. This self talk or autosuggestion as very successful coach Antony Robbins says needs to be mixed with emotions with gesture and talked out load with passion, and shouted as the top of you lungs. Some people can-t do that with people around do it whan you are alone but don't stop. If you want uncommon results you needs uncommon tools and mindset as big goals or dreams are difficult to achieve.

4. Whatever other people told you , when you are on you path to success and happiness," you are slow", "you are bad ", "you can't concentrate" "you are ugly" , be aware  don't let their opinion become your reality. Run a test in your self , think it through , come up with a plan what can you do to overcome it. WHAT CAN YOU DO TO IMPROVE . But remember that is no perfection, this is a journey a process , that you will get better the more you practice and the more people you teach.

5. Focus on enjoyable moments, on things that you good at. Make a list of things that you did well and review it any time a bad though come your way.

6. Don't blame, justify and complain. All these are negative feeling and will bring negative emotions and they will hold you back.

What do you think. Could you tell me what is stopping you from having the life you want?????????????????????????????

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