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Tuesday, 10 May 2016

7 natural ways to boost your brain power and sharpen your mind- by mindbodygreen.com

7 Natural Ways To Boost Your Brain Power + Sharpen Your Mind


Sure, there's not much you can do to stop time. You can however, improve the quality of your life within the time you have — and that includes keeping your mind sharp and vibrant.
Just like working out your muscles helps your musculoskeletal system stay strong, any activity that involves practice causes the brain to transmit signals in a specific pattern over and over again, allowing for connections between neurons to strengthen. That means your brain gets stronger, too.
But it's not just mental exercises that can strengthen your noggin. From eating the right foods to practicing "deep listening," here are my favorite simple ways to keep your brain sharp and vibrant.
1. Practice meditation to decrease stress.
Studies shows that chronic stress can damage the brain. So you can help protect and strengthen your brain by engaging in activities or lifestyle habits that decrease the firing of your stress response.
One of the best ways to do this is through developing a meditation practice, even if it's just 10 to 20 minutes a day. You can practice breath-focused exercises, mindfulness meditation, yoga, Tai Chi, or engage in a spiritual practice or ritual, like prayer.
2. Take up cognitive training exercises.
The mind stays sharp when the plasticity of the brain is maintained. Brain plasticity refers to the brain’s ability to constantly change over the course of a person’s lifetime. And this plasticity can be maintained — and better yet, improved — by engaging in cognitive training exercises, which challenge your intellectual capacity.
You can take up playing chess, learning a new language, or juggling. And playing boardgames can stimulate your thinking, as well as your hand-eye coordination. You can even do something simple like learn a new direction to drive to work, type or scroll with the opposite hand, or combine your senses by eating while listening to music with your eyes closed.
3. Exercise your body — for your brain.
Research shows that physical exercise enhances cognitive function. One reason might be because it increases levels of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that improves learning, memory and higher thinking by stimulating growth of new neurons and helping existing neurons stay alive.
Walk outdoors where the terrain isn't predictable, so that you're perfecting your balance and working your foot-eye coordination at the same time. Yoga or tai chi also enable you to practice coordination, flow of movement, balance and the engagement of different muscle groups. And don't forget to fit in some aerobic exercise as well, getting your heart rate up for at least 15 minutes a few times a week.
4. Practice deep listening.
Any time you're engaged in activities that require communication, your neurons need to fire and synapses need to function. Injury to the brain and even too much stress can challenge this communication highway and make speaking, listening, understanding cues and integrating information more difficult.  
Just like a meditation practice can lower the activation of the stress response and therefore quiet the mind, you want to get into the practice of regularly quieting the mind so that the neurons can do their job of communicating.
I call this practice “deep listening,” where you allow yourself to take a pause and a deep breath. This provides you with the space you need to fully hear words and take in the nuances. The tenants of this practice are:
  • Do not rush when communicating. Wait, take a pause.
  • Breathe. Inhale deeply and exhale completely, allowing the mind to quiet.
  • Listen with your heart. Notice how words make you feel. Try to engage all of your senses.
  • Write first. If you feel emotionally charged, you may want to jot down what you're feeling to help gain clarity before you speak out.
  • Find a safe place to rant. You can choose a friend, therapist or counselor whom you know you can safely speak to without worrying that you might be judged. You will find that when you release whatever is pent up, you can more easily listen and communicate.
5. Ditch the sugar.
A diet high in sugar can be harmful to the brain, inducing inflammation, oxidative stress and poor insulin regulation.
Your goal, therefore, is to follow a diet that helps you improve insulin sensitivity and reduce inflammation. This means eating fish, some meat, a lot of vegetables, some nuts and seeds, some fruit and very little grains.
6. Nourish your brain with antioxidants.
Your brain benefits not only from a low sugar intake, but also from getting more antioxidants, which can help improve your memory, learning and overall cognitive performance.
Antioxidant-rich foods include berries (especially blueberries), fruits and vegetables like carrots, spinach and red grapes, and drinks like green tea, red wine, and coffee, as well as dark chocolate (in moderation, of course).
7. Sleep on it.
We've all had that moment when we're sleep-deprived and can't remember where we put the keys or what we went into the kitchen to get. You can't fully operate when you're sleep-deprived — and this includes your cognitive skills, memory and ability to think clearly or communicate.
If you don't feel well-rested, see if you need more hours of sleep or if it's a question of improving the quality of sleep. Consider getting a Fitbit or other gadget that monitors how restfully you're sleeping, or have a sleep study done by your doctor. You may find that you simply have to wake up too early to get the right amount of hours in. If this is the case, consider taking naps, which can help you catch up on those zzz’s.
This is a great article taken from mindbodygreen.

My name is Bruna and i am a coach focus on improving wellbeing of the mind through positive psychology and mindfulness.
I select the most shared articles to read and share with my audience to teach my self and other new and important things every day.
have  a great day 
Bruna

Sunday, 5 July 2015

Assertiveness - An Introduction
















In my journey to personal development and growth I had to do an 
inventory of skills I have what I would like to have. I noticed that 
assertiveness was an important skill that I need to develop.
Most of the time I do stand up for my self and I thought that using 
emotions raising your voice to make a point and get support form 
some people is winning the points. So i started reading and looking 
at articles so i come across the famous book of Dale carnegie that 
has written so much about communication, persuasion and people 
skills.
i have summarised some points to help my self and other people 
that would like to improve that communications skills.
1.Don't counteract and don't react. If a comment is raised your blood pressure, you feel redness and feel a boiling feeling inside that is not a good time to 
answer. Predictably the answer will be rushed, not thought through 
and you will be perceived childish and rushed and rude. 
Take a deep breath, count to 10 and summarise the facts. Beaware 
of your voice tone, volume and pitch.
2. Don't make excuses. start with "I " statements. I am feeling..., 
hearing...., understanding...., but let me understand better , is this 
what you meant??
Every time we say "YOU did this and you make do this", YOU are this
 and the other is personal abuse accusation and the other person will
 want to fight or flight response. We are not our behaviour we can 
make mistake, say things wrongly and judge a situation not correctly. We might have done something rude in the past but we are not rude, we might have done 
something mean in the past but we are not mean people.
Telling somebody you are this is verbally attack and offence. 
3. Avoid using always and never, like" you always do/ say/ behave ....
this to me", " you never understand/ protect..." This are 
generalisations, 
not specific are for sure when used to fuel the situation .
4. Don't expect people to agree with you. Clearly state what you want, 
need and the benefit to other party.

Thanks to Dale Carnegie book The 5 essential people skills for the 
inspiration. This is my quest for this year. To become assertive.
This article is taken form Source
Assertiveness is a skill regularly referred to in social and 
communication skills training.
Being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other
 people’s rights in a calm and positive way, without being either 
aggressive, or passively accepting ‘wrong’.
Assertive individuals are able to get their point across without 
upsetting others, or becoming upset themselves.
Although everyone acts in passive and aggressive ways from time to time, such 
ways of responding often result from a lack of self-confidence and are, therefore, 
inappropriate ways of interacting with others.
This page examines the rights and responsibilities of assertive behaviour and 
aims to show how assertiveness can benefit you. You may also be interested in 
our pages on Self-Esteem and Negotiation.

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What is Assertiveness?

The Concise Oxford Dictionary defines assertiveness as:
“Forthright, positive, insistence on the recognition of one's rights”
In other words:
Assertiveness means standing up for your personal rights - expressing thoughts,
 feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways.
It is important to note also that:
By being assertive we should always respect the thoughts, feelings and beliefs of 
other people.
Those who behave assertively always respect the thoughts, feelings and beliefs of other people as 
well as their own.
Assertiveness concerns being able to express feelings, wishes, wants and desires appropriately and is 

an important personal and interpersonal skill.  In all your interactions with other people, whether at 
home or at work, with employers, customers or colleagues, assertiveness can help you to express 
yourself in a clear, open and reasonable way, without undermining your own or others’ rights.
Assertiveness enables individuals to act in their own best interests, to stand up for themselves 
without undue anxiety, to express honest feelings comfortably and to express personal rights without 
denying the rights of others.

Being Assertive

Being assertive involves taking into consideration your own and other people’s rights,
 wishes, wants, needs and desires.
Assertiveness means encouraging others to be open and honest about their views, wishes and feelings, 
so that both parties act appropriately.
Assertive behaviour includes:
  • 1. Being open in expressing wishes, thoughts and feelings and 
  • encouraging others to do likewise. See our page on Managing 
  • Emotions.
  • 2. Listening to the views of others and responding appropriately, 
  • whether in agreement with those views or not. See our page on 
  • Active Listening.
  • 3. Accepting responsibilities and being able to delegate to others. 
  • See our page on Delegation Skills for more.
  • 4. Regularly expressing appreciation of others for what they have 
  • done or are doing. See our page on Gratitude and Being Grateful.
  • 5. Being able to admit to mistakes and apologise.
  • Maintaining self-control. See our page on Self-Control for more.
  • 6. Behaving as an equal to others. See our page on Justice and 
  • Fairness to explore further.

Those who struggle to behave assertively may find that they behave either 
aggressively or passively.


Being Passive

Responding in a passive or non-assertive way tends to mean compliance with the wishes of others and can undermine individual rights and self-confidence. 
Many people adopt a passive response because they have a strong need to be liked by others.  Such people do not regard themselves as equals because they place greater weight on the rights, wishes and feelings of others.  Being passive results in failure to communicate thoughts or feelings and results in people doing things they really do not want to do in the hope that they might please others. This also means that they allow others to take responsibility, to lead and make decisions for them.
See our Personal Presentation and Self-Esteem pages for tips on how to increase your personal

confidence.
A classic passive response is offered by those who say 
'yes' to requests when they actually want to say 'no'.
For example:
“Do you think you can find the time to wash the car today?” 
A typical passive reply might be:
“Yes, I'll do it after I've done the shopping, made an important telephone call,

finished the filing, cleaned the windows and made lunch for the kids!” 
A far more appropriate response would have been:
“No, I can't do it today as I've got lots of other things I need to do.” 
The person responding passively really does not have the time, but their answer does not convey this message. The second response is assertive as the person has 
considered the implications of the request in the light of the other tasks
 they have to do.
Assertiveness is equally important at work as at home.
If you become known as a person who cannot say no, you will be 
loaded up with tasks by your colleagues and managers, and you could 
even make yourself ill.

When you respond passively, you present yourself in a less positive light or put yourself down in some 
way. If you constantly belittle yourself in this way, you will come to feel inferior to others.  While the 
underlying causes of passive behaviour are often poor self-confidence and self-esteem, in itself it can
 further reduce feelings of self-worth, creating a vicious circle.
See our pages on Building Confidence and What is Self-Esteem? for more information.