To have what you want you have to deserve want you want- Socrates

I was listening to a lecture and I heead the saying- To get what you want you need to deserve what you want.

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN, WHAT??????????

We all hear saying and conclusions from other people , that make sense , but that don't really resonate with us.

To be happy, I need to deserve to be happy?
To be stressfree I need to deserve to be stressfree?
To have money I need to deserve to have money?

I thought I deserve all those as my parents told me when I was young , i deserve this and that. I am working everyday so I deserve all those. or not?

I come across in my life and work many people going through midlife crisis, family drama that crush their life and soul and don't find any strength to pick them self us. Unfortunately I don't have all the answers for them, some people have more answers than other and you need to distinguish who to listen to.

The world is a big complicated place and we need to find our own answers in our surroundings.

Start with WHY?
Why do you want that? What it will feel like having the thing that you want?

1. Build a massive , great , enormous desire of the thing that you want? There will be thousands and thousands of materials to get you motivated. The cheapest is books. That is how I started and it has worked great. one will be Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action, by Simon Sinek.

2. Know the facts, we have more negative emotions than positive, actuallly 5 negative and only one positive. In english language there are more wards describing negative emotions than positive one. So to be negative is default button on you head.

To be positive your input is needed, you need to reprogram your thoughts about your self and your life.

Fact-1.  it is going to be hard.
Fact 2. Will not be strightforward.
Fact 3. Your surroundings needs to be supportive of your journey.
Fact 4. It is a jouney not a destination.
Fact 5. It is worth it. your life , your peace of mind it worth, is down to you to not waste, your body, your dreams, your skills, your family life, your friendship.

Have a look at the book that I have found effective and start building your own.

Find people to help you in your journey until you can learn to walk on your own.

Give me your suggesting on the books that you found helpful to transform our life from defaults to meaningfull.

Have a great day and beautiful journey.